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Episode 4: How do you ensure a couple comes back after their first session?

Between Sessions is a free video series created for therapists—short, reflective pieces designed to fit into the space between clients or during your tea break.

In this episode, Karen Murphy shares the foundations that shape every successful first session with a couple—and how to create the kind of therapeutic space that helps clients feel safe, met, and ready to return.

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What this episode explores

How do you make sure a couple comes back after their first session?

In this episode, Karen shares the principles that transformed her early practice and remain central to her work today: the Four Cornerstones of couples therapy.

She reflects on:

  • Why the first session is less about “doing” and more about being with
  • The four relational cornerstones: respect, curiosity, authenticity, and strong leadership
  • How these conditions mirror Carl Rogers’ core conditions while grounding couples therapy in safety and connection
  • Why curiosity is the therapist’s most powerful tool—especially when things feel stuck
  • How leadership, contracting, and clear boundaries create trust and regulation in the room

Whether you’re new to couples work or simply revisiting your foundations, this episode offers a gentle but practical reminder of what makes the first session matter.

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Episode 3 – The Coldplay Couple Comes to Therapy
In this episode, Karen uses a recent viral moment, the “Coldplay couple” kiss cam incident, as a jumping-off point to explore how we, as therapists, hold affair work in the room.

Watch Episode 3
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