What this episode explores
How do you make sure a couple comes back after their first session?
In this episode, Karen shares the principles that transformed her early practice and remain central to her work today: the Four Cornerstones of couples therapy.
She reflects on:
- Why the first session is less about “doing” and more about being with
- The four relational cornerstones: respect, curiosity, authenticity, and strong leadership
- How these conditions mirror Carl Rogers’ core conditions while grounding couples therapy in safety and connection
- Why curiosity is the therapist’s most powerful tool—especially when things feel stuck
- How leadership, contracting, and clear boundaries create trust and regulation in the room
Whether you’re new to couples work or simply revisiting your foundations, this episode offers a gentle but practical reminder of what makes the first session matter.
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