What this episode explores
In this episode, Karen uses a recent viral moment, the “Coldplay couple” kiss cam incident, as a jumping-off point to explore how we, as therapists, hold affair work in the room.
She reflects on:
- Why neutrality matters when working with betrayal
- How therapists can bracket their own reactions and biases
- Why the early work often begins with the affair partner
- The importance of process over blame
- What it means to sit with a couple making sense of rupture, without deciding for them
This is a high-level reflection for therapists who want to deepen their ethical and relational stance when working with affairs, and sit with the discomfort, rather than rush toward repair.
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Episode 2 – The Process Lens in Couples Therapy
Karen deepens the conversation about why couples therapy isn’t simply “individual therapy times two.”